Hello again.
I want to share with you one of my biggest struggles - not being in control of other people's actions, and consequently, how they affect my plans, attitude, mood, etc.
Sure, I understand the theory. If you can't change something, then you should change your attitude. And of course it makes perfect sense - because how you feel all comes down to how you choose to feel, regardless of the part someone else has played.
I decided to write about this today because of a recurring issue I have in my business. With my furniture upcycling, I often have clients collecting pieces from my home, as this is where I operate from. I try to be flexible and organise a day/time that suits my client best and work around that. The frustration I have is when those clients don't show up, or message me after the arranged time to reschedule, or to reschedule after committing to picking up their piece two or three days in a row! I suppose it's because I find this incredibly rude, and presumptuous for the client to think I am a lady of leisure that can sit around all day to wait for them. I do understand that life happens, and there are situations that arise which are beyond control. But it just happens all too often, and it leaves me seething!!
It affects my mood, it affects my plans for the day, it affects my budget. And I think to a point it's okay to feel frustration. But I need to learn to nip it in the bud quickly, and to release it.
The question is, how do I do this best?
It's something I'm slowly learning. I am learning that how I feel is how I choose to feel. IT IS A CHOICE -NOT A PREDETERMINED RESPONSE.
I can go for a walk, meditate, sit in nature, ask my guides to help me to release, deep breathe, journal...
There is no need to carry someone else's weight. If you're holding onto something that isn't yours, release it right now. Live the best version of yourself. Be responsible for your own actions and feelings, not someone else's.
Remember: IF YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT, CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE
Namaste, Jessie Jean